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Loving Your Child To Death, The Complicated Reality of Enabling Your Addicted Child

Dr. Jeffrey Berman, MD By August 31, 2018

You’ve been with them from the beginning. You’ve watched them grow and change into an intricate and beautiful individual, so your heart broke hard when you found out they were struggling with an addiction to drugs or alcohol. You raised them trying to give them the tools they needed to avoid falling prey to intoxicating substances. They went through classes at school to warn of the dangers of addictive chemicals. You even talked with them about the subject and made a priority out of checking in with them about any peer pressures they may be encountering. Sometimes, however, even with your best efforts, your children will have to make their own mistakes, in spite of diligent educational conversations and clear warnings about the dangers of abusing drugs and alcohol. By the end of this article, hopefully you will have clarity about your actions. The Discovery Institute is here to help you and your child through this difficult time. We offer the best New Jersey rehab and can give your child the tools to kick their habit and choose sobriety every day.

 

Let Yourself Feel

You might feel angry at them, like they abandoned all that you tried to teach them. That’s okay. It’s okay to feel upset by your child dealing with addiction.

Sometimes when  but mostly for them. You want to soothe them, and hold them, and hide them away from the cruelty of the world, of self hatred, and especially you want to save them from the devastating tole that  addiction can have on its victims. You don’t want to lose them. But here’s the thing. You can’t save them. Someone struggling with an addiction to drug and alcohol. The only thing you can do now

 

How Did You Get Into This Cycle

Discovery InstituteIf you think you might be enabling your addicted son or daughter, there are some typical enabling actions that take place when a parent is enabling their child:

  1. Giving them money consistently, irrespective of how they may be using it
  2. Paying their bills, even as they spend all of their own money on abusing their drug of choice.
  3. Letting them live with you, no questions asked, no parameters.
  4. Bailing them out with no questions asked, over and over again – Have you had to bail your son or daughter out of jail more than once? What about more than twice? If your child has a habit of getting picked up by the cops, it’s definitely time to get help.

Help Is A Phone Call Away

If you’ve realized you are doing more harm than good by trying to support your child in this way, it is very important to take action. Drug and alcohol abuse can be deadly, and the more an addict is enabled, the more their addiction feels like a legitimate form of self medication. We want to help you. There is hope. Your child can succeed at sober living. New Jersey has a number of rehab and detox options, but we are the number one top rated drug rehab center in New Jersey. Detox and Rehab in NJ aren’t out of your child’s reach, and could even be covered by your insurance! Call them today to confirm your or your child’s benefits.

Article Reviewed by Dr. Jeffrey Berman, MD

Dr. Jeffrey Berman, MDDr. Jeffrey Berman is a psychiatrist in Teaneck, New Jersey and is affiliated with Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital. He received his medical degree from State University of New York Upstate Medical University and has been in practice for more than 20 years. He also speaks multiple languages, including French and Hebrew.

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