One of the things that people struggling with addiction or depression worry about the most is being a burden to others. Often we keep our struggles secret because we don’t want to trouble our loved ones with them. Conversely, one of the things that the loved ones of suicide victim say the most is how much they wish they’d known the trouble their friend was going through and how much they wish they could have helped.
That’s What Friends are For
I know the feeling. You don’t want to be a Debbie Downer. You feel like every time you see your friends, you’re bringing them down as you’re relying on them to help get your life back in order. It’s not fair and you don’t want to abuse the relationship or be high maintenance, so you put on the mask. You pretend like you’re fine, and don’t talk about what’s really on your mind thinking this makes you a better friend.
But your friend wants to help! They see the pain you’re in, and often are looking for ways that they can get involved. They want to help you. Sometimes the greatest feeling of happiness we can get is when we do something to help someone we love, don’t deny your friend the ability to help you out.
Two Heads are Better Than One
A good friend is someone that you can say you’re worried about stressing them out but you really need to talk right now. Let them know if you need someone to just listen, or if you need more active help such as being there to help you make the phone call for rehab. When you see that a friend is invested in your struggle, it gives way more motivation to succeed for them, not just yourself.
If you have someone in your life who you want to ask for help, but have been afraid to open up to: give it a chance. They might have been wondering how they can help all along.
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